Amelia, 80
Sexual attraction is instantaneous: when we embrace, I enter a level of arousal I don’t remember having with anyone else
Before meeting Hugh, I had not had sex for 20 years. I have been married for 51 years but my husband couldn’t stand my snoring and suggested I sleep elsewhere, which I did. Our sex life was over. But because I was busy living with and caring for my elderly husband, sex was the least of my concerns.
When he passed away three years ago, it didn’t occur to me to go out and find sex, or indeed another relationship. My life is full and I never feel like I’m missing anything. But last year my niece encouraged me to join a dating site, and that’s how I met Hugh. We only knew each other for 15 weeks, but in that short time I not only rediscovered a sexual side of myself, but also a sexual energy that I simply didn’t have before, even though I was very abusive as a young woman. pay.
The sexual attraction was instant: when he arrived at my house, we hugged, and my breasts and nipples immediately turned on to a level of arousal I don’t remember with anyone else.
Our sexual relationship changed over these weeks. Not long after we met, I had major surgery and I became very anxious about being able to have penetrative sex. So while I was recovering, we would gently explore each other with our hands, lips, and tongues, and do a lot of body friction. We would lie naked together and he would rub his cock against my clit, and it was so wonderful.
We did some things together that we had never done with anyone else. We do a lot of topping and tailing, and he has a very active, energetic tongue that he uses to great effect. Thank God we are both healthy as we usually meet two to three nights a week and have sex every morning and evening. We often had sex on the couch in the afternoons.
We were like a couple of 18-year-olds, but with more knowledge and experience. I felt confident at my age that I had absolutely nothing to lose. Finding sexual connection like this at this stage in life feels like the ultimate reward.
Hugh, 78
The emotional and mental connection is so strong that the physical connection becomes a wave
Before I met Amelia, I had to face the question of whether my sex life was over. I’ve been married for 30 years before and probably haven’t had sex in the past five years. At my age, I’m not sure I have the ability to do this, to achieve an erection at 78 years old.
My doctor prescribed Viagra, but that was only part of the problem. Sex isn’t mechanical or pharmaceutical, it’s more about emotion. I really didn’t fully understand this until I met Amelia. The emotional and mental connection is so strong that the physical connection becomes a wave. From the beginning, I found her humor, intelligence, openness, and love of fun very attractive. This is a real thrill for me. Then the whole erection issue was forgotten. I didn’t have to worry because my penis took over, literally.
We were cautious at first, we wanted to see how things would go. We started exploring each other with our tongues and fingers. I’m very creative with my tongue, it’s kind of like a musical instrument. So using that is very powerful, like using a pause here or there to create anticipation. We enjoy many aspects of sex, not just pure penetration. I think the Kama Sutra talks about toes – we haven’t tried that yet, but I will. It’s just a question of whether it can be solved.
Being 78 and not working is great because we have a lot of time to have sex. Generally, it is at least an hour each time, twice a day.
The assumption that you can’t have sex when you’re 70 is complete nonsense. The expertise we’ve gained over the years has helped us become better lovers. It helps that we are both healthy too. I have been practicing yoga for 50 years and it has given me incredible flexibility.
